What does it take for a woman to be a good lover?

In my opinion as for man no. 1 is skills to be present in him, and of course this is important for you, I believe a woman’s no. 1 skill is she needs to learn fully the ability to receive…

 

Presence is a very masculine quality…so do…stillness, power, and holding space…but the woman is like a river...bringing something new every moment…and taking away something old…that is why those qualities must go together…like man sitting by the river and watching what is right now…witnessing the beauty of the river...what is there in this moment...the amazing flow, reflection of sun, beautiful shapes, soothing sounds, refreshing energy and also the reflection of his image…he can’t see the river which was there 5 min ago....only what is there the present moment...every woman wants to be seen and admired…but in order for this to work she must learn to receive…to receive her life force energy but mainly the presence of the man...just like a river is allowing the watcher all the time…no matter what…If the woman looses the ability to be a river, she becomes a lake…holding, not letting go…and soon there will be a mud at the bottom…

In mind of the woman there is so much going on than a mind of a man…specially when it comes to relationship…she needs to be able to accept all what her or his mind is containing…when she learns this, she will be able to offer this acceptance to her man, and that is medicine for us men…

When we feel loved and accepted, we slowly unfold our beauty and turn into the innocent playful child showing off and being fun with…If we are " under control" and being see with " strong eye", we have to hold back and we offer very different energy to you when you really want it...

So, again, you are creator of your experience…

Then when you learn how to receive and accept, it is time to enter your erotic body…

What does it mean for a woman to be in erotic energy?

I think this is a very exciting topic:)…Firstly, again, it is about being in your body...learning how to use it when you are alone…you can never be a good lover to someone else, if you are not a good lover to yourself…

How do you live? Do you allow your life to take over and stress you out and you don’t have time for yourself?

Or do you have time to really treat yourself in a loving way?

Are you able to make time just for you, lock the door, light up a candle, play and listen to some soft music, nice smelling stick…what makes cozy space for you?...Then lying down on bed with warm coconut oil and gently massaging your naked body with oil?

Expressing your love for yourself with gentle touch, self pleasuring movement?...Do you allow yourself to breathe deeply when you do this and allow also your sounds to be free and expressive?...I am sure if you are able to do this, you are on the correct road...if you haven’t done it, try it…regularly...and see how that works for you…When you give it to yourself, you will be able to give it to others…but I don’t mean now just the physical touch...I am talking about love:)

If you find this “practice" hard, then probably it is very hard for you to love someone too and I can promise you, this practice is the way…

Try it yourself and send us an email to share how it is working for you…the main longing of woman is to love...but unfortunately this ability was often deeply suppressed and that is why it is important to start with yourself...otherwise love will never happen..

When you learn to connect with your body in an intimate way, you go deeper into your soul…you learn to connect your sexual energy with your heart and make it wide open and radiation…when this happens, you become dangerously sexy…self loving woman with open shining heart, being able to accept men as they are...nobody can resist you, and no matter how beautiful you consider yourself (every woman is beautiful too:)

When you learn the magic of transforming sexual energy into pure love, what else is there for you..?

I believe then you really need to learn about men, if you want to be a good lover…

Also for you is…to communicate your needs…be able to express what you really want, and learn to be also in your playful powerful energy.

 

Playful BDSM will also be a great tool for you…you can chain your man and do with him just what you want...that will drive him crazy…When you tease him and arouse him, and let him be, with no touch...how would he feel?:)…When you express your fire in one hand and then really gentle loving touch in the other hand...how would you feel?

But I feel “BDSM for women” is another article :)

It is also important you know how to be a sexual healer for your partner...that you understand the connection between trauma and sexuality of men, and you know the tools to solve it...how to give fantastic penis massage, or deeply pleasuring prostate massage…how to open heart of your man and help him to step into his power and masculine beauty…When the man sees all those amazing abilities you can learn, they offer you a very deep sense of trust and they will deeply admire you as a woman and always give you very respectful space…

Learn also how to give sensual erotic massage for pleasure, how to make fantastic foreplay…how to create sacred space in your bed…

If you are missing all these things, often you need to be the one who initiate this…men are often locked up in their box of habits and it is very hard for them to leave it…you are much more capable… because you don’t live in box:)

I feel that women are much more deeper than men...I believe that if they are in their feminine energy, they should be our teachers and we can learn from them with love and joy on how to feel, how to open our hearts and how to love…woman are all around love…woman is love..

But in order for this to happen, you need to step into it...that makes your life very different…and we, men need it..